Breast ironing is the pounding and massaging of a pubescent girl’s
breasts, using hot tools, to try to make them stop developing or to
disappear. It is typically carried out by family members who are trying
to protect the girl from sexual harassment and rape. They hope it
will also prevent early pregnancy that would tarnish the family name, or to
allow the girl to pursue education rather than be forced into early
marriage.
It is mostly practiced in parts of Cameroon, where boys and men may
think that girls whose breasts have begun to grow are ready for sex. The
most widely used implement for breast ironing is a wooden pestle
normally used for pounding tubers. Other tools used include
leaves, bananas, coconut shells, grinding stones, ladles, spatulas, and
hammers heated over coals.
Lots of things have been said about this, but lets hear first hand from the victims
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Cindy, 14 years old; and a wooden spatula that has been used for breast ironing. Photo credit: Gildas Paré | | | |
“Every
morning, before going to school, my mom makes me lift up my top so she
can make sure I haven’t taken my bandage off. It’s been two years now
and she still checks it on a daily basis. It’s humiliating. I’d like her
to stop. When I grow up, I want to be a lawyer or play piano. I hope
that wearing this bandage will help me to continue my education.” – Cindy, 14 years old.
Jeannette, 28 years old. Photo credit: Gildas Paré
“Having breasts was shameful. My grandmother noticed mine when I
was 10. One night, she made me lie down on a bamboo bed by the fire. She
pressed on me with a hot wooden spatula and tried to flatten them. Even
now, I don’t want people to touch my chest.” – Jeannette, 28 years old.
Carole B., 28 years old; and berry pits are also used to flatten the breast Photo credit: Gildas Paré
“When my breasts started to grow, people in my house began to
talk about it. Neighbors, my mom’s friends, our elders. So much talking!
Even I started to feel ashamed because people were talking about it.
Eventually, my mom decided to iron my breasts. ‘If we don’t iron them,
it will attract men. And we know that men mean pregnancy,’ she said. We
needed to kill those breasts, she claimed. She used hot rock on my right
boob, then the left, then the right. This went on for weeks. I suppose
she meant well. Breasts are what makes a woman beautiful, though. Today,
mine are flabby. They can’t even stand.” – Carole B., 28 years old.
Carole N., 28 years old. Photo credit: Gildas Paré
“They tell you: ‘Don’t scream, it’s for your own good.’ I haven’t
had the courage to talk about it to my children yet. Three days ago, my
son asked me, ‘Mommy, why do you have small breasts?’ I told him that I
didn’t know. I also have a six-year-old daughter. But I’m not ready to
talk about it. I would have loved to breastfeed a future president.”– Carole N., 28 years old.
Doriane, 19 years old. Photo credit: Gildas Paré
“I was eight when my mother told me: ‘Take your top off. Do you
have breasts already? When a girl your age has breasts, men look at
her.’ I didn’t understand what she was doing. Every day, sometimes three
times a day, she would flatten my chest with a hot spatula. She would
just say: ‘It’s for your own good.’ It was a nightmare. I noticed that
the more she massaged me, the more my breasts grew. When she realized it
wasn’t working, she used a rock. That was hell. It felt like my body
was on fire. A guidance counselor, who I told everything, tried to talk
to my mom and get her to stop. I was happy because I thought it was
over. But she did it again—with heated fruit pits this time. She
massaged and massaged. I packed my stuff and moved to my aunt’s
immediately. Sometimes, I try to understand my mother’s actions. It
hurts so much when I look at myself in the mirror.” – Doriane, 19 years old.
Agnès, 32 years old; and crushing rock. Photo credit: Gildas Paré
“My breasts finally began to grow when I was 18 years old. Before
that, boys weren’t attracted to my body. I felt really bad about it. My
grandmother began destroying my breast when I was 12 years old. I would
try to run away from her every morning but she’d catch me. Other kids
were going to school and I was being massaged with a hot rock. She did
it twice a day for a year. Having breasts is natural, it’s human. When I
didn’t have them, I felt like a boy.” – Agnès, 32 years old.
Cathy, 27 years old; and pestle. Photo credit: Gildas Paré
“Pestles remind me of my childhood pains. That same piece of rock
people use to crush spices has been used to crush women’s beauty and
wilt teenagers’ skin. My breasts began to grow when I was ten and my
family thought that massaging was the solution. When I was 16 and got
pregnant, they also darkened. A black fluid would come out every time I
tried to breastfeed. I have a hard time remembering it all. I decided to
forget it and to fight violence against women.” – Cathy, 27 years old.
Emmanuelle, 23 years old; and driver ants that is used to stimulate breast milk production. Photo credit: Gildas Paré
“She was my mom, so I had to obey when she called for me. Even if
I ran, she’d catch me; when I went to bed, she’d grab me; when I was
washing myself, she’d get me and start massaging. She’d find a way, no
matter what. I could cry all I want, but she would still do it. It felt
like she was stabbing something into my chest. She’s dead now. I never
really understood what she was thinking—if she thought she was helping
me or punishing me. My cousin raped me when I was 13 and I ended up
giving birth to his child. I needed to produce milk but I no longer had
breasts. We tried to use driver ants. When they sting you, your breasts
inflate and it’s supposed to encourage milk production. I’ve had three
children and, despite the ants, I haven’t been able to breastfeed any of
them.” – Emmanuelle, 23 years old.
Lisette, 34 years old. Photo credit: Gildas Paré
“My mother told me that my breasts were going to attract men. So
she brought me to a traditional healer. He grabbed a knife, cut my
breasts, one after the other, and sucked the insides out with a tube. He
told me: ‘If you don’t do it, people will think you’re a prostitute.’ I
fainted from the pain. It took days to heal. Breasts are a gift from
God.” – Lisette, 34 years old.
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Kudos to Igbere Tv, for helping in exposing this.
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